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|Posted on June 10, 2015 at 8:47 AM||comments (118)|
Should professional therapists take sides politically and professionally or remain unbiased and neutral?
The answer, my answer at least, Therapist have a duty and an obligation to challenge and oppose a system that targets and demeans the most vulnerable in society, that fractures and distorts mental health services, that results in people with mental health and other issues living in poverty, without benefits, and often suicidal.
In the very first book of the Bible, when Cain is challenged about his murder of Abel, he cries out, 'Am I My Brothers Keeper?' The answer for this government : Yes. You are your brothers keeper, and their blood cries out to you from the ground.
Let us not forget the hundreds and possibly thousands who have died because of austerity, benefit sanctions, workfare enforcements, cuts to services. Let us not forget the millions who suffer under welfare and benefits cuts, who are paid below a living wage, or on zero hour contracts, who struggle to provide for their children and families while the rich get richer. Let us not forget the thousands who now have to use food banks while companies and basic necessities (gas, electric, water) make more and more money at their expense.
In the light of this governments war on the poor, professional neutrality is cowardice and collusion.
|Posted on June 10, 2015 at 8:15 AM||comments (71)|
All abuse is dangerous, but Narcissistic Abuse is, to me, particularly insidious. The Abuser appears so loving to start with, but slowly over time cuts off support mechanisms and positive relationships, isolating the victim, and then being incredibly manipulative, making the abuse seem like the victims fault, making them feel like it is them who have failed in some way, not good enough, must try harder, be better.
The reality is that it is the Narcissistic Abuser who has failed, who is not good enough. Somewhere in their childhood they did not form secure loving relationships and learned to get what they need by manipulating others, isolating others, abusing others. As I commented on Facebook, they appear to be strong but are actually weak.
Do you recognise this pattern?
Are you a victim of a Narcissistic Abuser?
Has your partner or another person isolated you from family and friends?
Do they control where you can go and who you can see?
Are they critical of your family and friends when you do go and see them?
Do they have temper tantrums and then blame you for making that happen?
Do they apologise and promise to change, or tell you that it's only because they love you?
Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells, afraid of upsetting them at the slightest thing?
Do you feel your needs have definitely taken a back seat to their needs?
Do you feel constantly Not Good Enough, a failure, low self esteem, no confidence?
The truth is that you have a right to be you,
To have a voice
To be respected
To be free from fear and abuse
If you are the victim of Narcissistic Abuse, please please get in touch
TA Therapy is an excellent way for you to discover who you really are and be able to understand why you have ended up where you are, but more importantly, how you can change and move on.
And if you are so insecure that the only way you can get your relationship needs met is by controlling the person you love, by abusing them (let's be honest here), then realise what is happening and get in touch for therapy also. It does not have to continue this way, and abusers need to find healing also.
To get in touch, click the big red button to go to the Contacts page :
|Posted on February 16, 2015 at 9:09 AM||comments (42)|
|Posted on December 21, 2014 at 8:19 AM||comments (16)|
In 2015 are there some things worth giving up?
Here are twenty possibilities (which one will you choose?) ...
Well, there are quite a few suggestions.
What will you change in the New year (although there is no reason you have to wait until then)?
For myself, I don't have New Year resolutions, but I do take time over Christmas to reflect on what I want to change or move towards in the next year. Sometimes I succeed. Sometimes I don't, and that too is OK.
Next year, I would like to spend more time exploring, meeting new people, being less assertive and more gentle, building up my faith, and a few other things.
What will you change?
|Posted on December 21, 2014 at 7:20 AM||comments (72)|
An Important Life Lesson :
A script, in TA terms, is a life pattern, something we do over and over and over again that isn't helping us, often without knowing why we are doing what we are doing.
As we approach 2015, perhaps it is time to reflect.
A script is like a play, a drama that is our life, and we play our part, the fool, the victim, the alcoholic, the strong man, the woman behind the man, the workaholic ... etc etc, till death do us part.
What is your 'script', your drama, the pattern you just can't seem to break?
Transactional Analysis is my particular form of counselling and therapy, partly because it provides easy ways to look at why we do what we do and how we can change. Scripts are just one example of that.
By becoming more aware of why we do what we do, we have more power to change the things we want to change.
If, in the New year, you need help breaking your 'script', or patterns in your life that are not helpful, please do contact me. Therapy really can help.
E-mail: [email protected]
Tel: 0116 2120791
or contact me through this website here
Have a great New year x
|Posted on December 10, 2014 at 7:00 AM||comments (38)|
This is an incredible you-tube talk about Pornography, very detailed, graphic in places, but very insightful and life changing. Ran Gavrieli talks about things most of us don't want to talk about or even think about, and makes his own experience very vulnerable and open.
I challenge you to watch this :